Validating others with words

10 Dec

Execution procedure used by combatant command components, supporting combatant commanders, and providing organizations to confirm to the supported commander and US Transportation Command that all the information records in a time-phased force and deployment data not only are error free for automation purposes, but also accurately reflect the current status, attributes, and availability of units and requirements.Unit readiness, movementdates, passengers, and cargo details should be confirmed with theunit before validation occurs.Some people have a difficult time reflecting back what their spouse is saying because they fear it means they agree with that perspective or interpretation of the facts. I can debate for hours the particulars, specifics, figures, statements and events as Erin sees them. This not only helps her feel safe, it also takes us to a deeper level of intimacy.Don't forget, validation says, "You matter to me, regardless of whether I agree with your perspective or whether your feelings make sense to me." When you disagree with the facts or opinions that your spouse is sharing, the key is to focus on his or her feelings. This gets us nowhere fast, and we both walk away feeling disconnected. To understand your spouse's emotions, try using phrases like: • "That sounds frustrating/discouraging/like it would really hurt." • "That must have been scary." • "How strongly are you feeling that (on a scale of 0 to 10)? " • "It sounds like you are really feeling __." • "How else did you feel? " This kind of questioning helps validate your spouse's feelings.I've found there are three powerful ways for couples to validate each other: 1. A great deal of validation occurs if you get good at reflecting or repeating back what your spouse is saying: • "So what I hear you saying is __." • "Is that what you are saying? " • "It sounds like __ is really important to you." • "So what bothered you was that __?

The message is that it's OK to think or feel the way he or she does.Validation occurs when we help our spouse feel unconditionally accepted.Most of us truly want to validate our spouse when he or she is frustrated or hurting, but often we don't know how to offer validation or we start to give advice. A process associated with the collection and production of intelligence that confirms that an intelligence collection or production requirement is sufficiently important to justify the dedication of intelligence resources, does not duplicate an existing requirement, and has not been previously satisfied.2.In computer modeling and simulation, the process of determining the degree to which a model or simulation is an accurate representation of the real world from the perspective of the intended uses of the model or simulation.3.