Of islam dating

27 Apr

In Eastern cultures, on the other hand, dating is usually not accepted socially.

Many a fictitious love story has brought in thousands if not millions of sales… Dating. In young adult (YA) as well as adult romance novels. The same societies, however, frown upon and deem it illegal for single boys and girls under the age of 16 to engage in sexual activity, yet allow them to engage in parentally sanctioned dating.

Nevertheless, those fortunate singles who are able to pass their youth until marriage chastely and celibately, are nowadays usually in for another kind of trap fromwhen, and if they get engaged to a person whom they like, their parents and/or their fiancé’s family might encourage them to talk to their fiancé on the phone, meet them, and even go out on occasional dates with them before the .

The lure of ‘romantic liaisons’ exists since time immemorial. Engagement: Socially Accepted Dating The desire to go out on a date and be romantically involved with a person of the opposite gender is extremely high among young, hot-blooded singles anywhere in the world. Since young people often lack the wisdom and discretion that comes with life experience and the endurance of hardships, makes them the prime target of insinuations in order to entrap them in the snare of romantic liaisons as soon as possible, so that they commit actions that cause them pain, suffering, and regrets later on.

Although both the above kinds of dating are forbidden in Islam, the latter is the most ‘socially accepted’ form of it that is rampant in most parts of the world.

A watered down form of dating that is allowed by the elders of most Eastern cultures and societies, is when a young couple that is engaged to be married with their families’ consent, is allowed to meet each other in a controlled environment before the wedding.

The rampant belief is: “If we don’t do everything as they ask, they will break off the engagement and go look for another girl/family.

Then we will have to painstakingly wait for proposals for our daughters all over again.”Because of these social pressures, even if a girl’s fiancé wants to take her out on dates in the interim period before the , talk to her for hours every day on the phone, come to meet her at her parents’ home at any inopportune time, touch her intimately during their dates, – her parents (and his), whose otherwise conservative mindset might render them strictly against dating for young couples before marriage,- often grudgingly acquiesce and allow it all, just because they are desperate to see their daughter(s) happily married and settled in life.

In a nutshell, Shaikh says, he felt like they were having fun and he wasn't. Ghazala Irshad, who also grew up in a Muslim family in Illinois, says she knows young Muslims who growing up, were told to "lower [their] gaze" when they came across the opposite sex. We don’t know how to talk to the opposite sex, how do we go about this?the transgression of Allah’s commands), and therefore, eventually ending up being unhappy and lacking blessings in the long run.Islamic Solution: “Halal Dating” A new, positive trend that has been consistently gaining ground, especially among religiously practicing Muslims, which allows betrothed singles to date each other without transgressing the laws of Islam, involves getting their written , with some close family members and friends in attendance, a few weeks or months prior to the actual wedding.Growing up, when it came to dating, relationships and girls, Shaikh would experience one thing at home, another outside.At home, "there was no such thing as the words dating or relationships.