Herpes and dating com

28 Oct

It’s true that the majority of the time, genital outbreaks are symptomatic of HSV II, but you can be infected by either type in either location, or even have both types in a given location — which makes me think that, functionally speaking, distinguishing between oral and genital infections is pointless.If you can asymptomatically shed the virus from any point of your body and it can infect any point of another person’s body, isn’t any type or location of herpes just…herpes?It might be better to break the news about herpes to someone who has already grown attached to you.Kissing, cuddling, and fondling are safe, so you don't have to tell before you do that.Not everyone has symptoms, but this doesn't mean you can't pass the virus to others.In fact, the majority of Americans have at least one form of the herpes virus, and you can get it from kissing, fucking, sharing a drink, or basically any form of close contact with a mucous membrane.Recently, someone told me that they had HPV, but nothing “weird like herpes” — to which I responded “If you’ve had sex with more than five people, chances are you’ve come into contact with herpes.” When we look past the stigma of herpes and see how common it really is, we slow down the shame train that runs over folks who have it.If and when you meet people who further stigmatize herpes, consider shutting down the shame and spreading some education instead.

If one in six American adults have genital herpes, then based on the number of sexual partners I'd had before my new love interest, surely I’d come into contact with someone with this virus.

(Mostly it was just nice to get acquainted with myself at such a direct angle! Before I had sex with someone with genital herpes, I needed to accept the very real possibility that I would become infected — and I needed to decide that it would be okay.

We don’t make a big deal about cold sores, so why is the same type of sore such a big deal once it hits below the belt?

It's up to you to decide the right time to tell a date that you have genital herpes.

Follow two rules: First, don't wait until after having sex.